Impulsive or Decisive?

 

I am 24 years old and already married with a 9 month old daughter. Guess when I got married! It may be quite amazing and surprising to most of the men that I got married when I was only 21, and my wife was one year younger than me. How young we were!

 

When ever I have my friends and strangers learn that I am a husband and now a father too, they always ask me the same question Why are you so early?

Until now do I find that such question is not easy to answer. As I tell them I love her and cannot wait for some other years, or as I would tell them that we may be pre-assigned for our destiny, it is not going to make sense for them, somehow. See how difficult it is to explain why I got married at such early age.

 

Whatever it is, I believe in one thing -- that I am ready! At the time I decided to get married I knew that I was (and would be) ready to be a good husband, and until last year I knew I was ready to be a good father. And of course I am now, although some things has made some changes to my decision. But I am ready to take responsibility for my marriage life and for my daughter's future.

 

I would say age has nothing do with a marriage life, but what counts is the 'self' -- which to me is the internal working drive of a man. See how many bachelors are still living alone either enjoying or not enjoying their condition. I do not think they cannot find the women of their types nor do I believe they could not afford the marriage, but what I deem is that they may not be ready to be the 'other half,' being the significant other for others whilst lots and lots of responsibility are requiring and facing towards them to take.

 

I am not, however, convincing you to marry someone at the age I got married, but as you can see if you want to get married, be decisive not impulsive. That's all for now.